ExcerptTop 10 Ways to Deepen IntimacyThe poet Rilke once advised a friend that a good marriage does not create “a quick community of spirit by tearing down and destroying all boundaries,” but rather appoints the other “guardian of his solitude.” Rilke’s comments, applicable to all committed partnerships, point to the mutual respect and clear-eyed seeing that form the basis for genuine intimacy. Here are 10 ways to attain it. 1. Bring up difficult subjects. 2. Listen with openness to feedback. 3. Attempt to elicit a fuller range of feelings during discussions and disagreements.
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